Depression and the Holidays

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I don’t know if you have been following me for a few years or we just met, but last year was a crazy whirlwind of travel, speaking engagements, meetings and fun…

BUT when it was all over.. I CRASHED….. hard.
I actually haven’t talked about this, except for a few close friends and my husband… but last December, I was suicidal.

IT WAS INTENSE. AWFUL. SAD. FRIGHTENING.

Explaining-Depression

You see, I had just been traveling for 3 months straight, I hosted a workshop with some amazing women, but I had burned the candle at both ends (again) and unbeknownst to me, I was also severely hypothyroid.

All I wanted was to be home and resting.. but I still had a business to run and I felt like I had SO much to catch up on after being away so long!

I couldn’t explain WHY I started to think I sucked the biggest balls in the world and I was worthless… because I loved my life, my husband, all the success… but I FELT LIKE KILLING MYSELF.

I just didn’t think I was making a difference.

I thought I should just quit now because I wasn’t where I wanted to be.

I had a million thoughts racing in my head about hating the holidays and not being worthy and on and on and on!!

Honestly, it got to the point, where I wanted to get away because we own guns and I was afraid of what I could do…but I was equally afraid to go anywhere because all I could think of while driving was to pull the wheel into oncoming traffic.

It was THAT. BAD.

I’m telling you this, not to make you feel sorry for me, or freak you out… but maybe just to raise awareness.
I DID end up getting some help (my sweet hubby just dragged me with him to work for a day or two so I wouldn’t be alone)

Then we took an amazing trip to Belize to focus on others rather than myself.

I got some blood work done, started on new thyroid medication and also some supplements to help my brain stabilize, but one thing I learned was that it is VERY COMMON to have major depressive episodes around the holidays.

When I started to really look back on the years, I realized I sort of had a pattern of mild to severe depression during December for a number of years.

SO WHAT DOES THIS HAVE TO DO WITH YOU??

Well…. I’m sharing my story because maybe you feel this way too and don’t know why… or maybe you have a friend out there, who suddenly got quiet and you figure she’s just busy, but might be going through the very same thing.

I think it is so important that we scoop each other up this holiday season.
Something about the cold, the family stuff (when maybe you didn’t have the best family growing up) can leave many people lonely, depressed and anxious.

Take a look around and maybe just do a quick check in with some friends; “Hey! How are things going?” … and wait…. and listen…..
You could just save someones life.

6 Morning Habits That Will Set You Up For a Wildly Alive Day

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Something I hear from my clients often is that around two or three every afternoon, they start to

feel exhausted. They feel worn down, and they reach for some afternoon caffeine or sugar to

perk them up. Hours later, they feel exhausted again. It’s a vicious cycle. I tell them a secret

I’m here to let you in on today –

 

If you’re feeling worn out every afternoon, it’s because you’re starting your morning off in fight or

flight mode! Think about it – you wake up, you check your phone, and you rush around getting

ready while you run over your mental checklist of all the things you need to get finished that day.

You feel stressed and defeated before you even walk out the door!

 

Here’s the thing – the first hour of your day sets the tone for how your entire day will go! You

want to feel productive? Have energy for that post-work workout? Avoid sugar cravings in the

afternoon? The key is setting yourself up for a wildly alive day within minutes of waking up.

Here’s how both my coaching clients and myself start our days off on the best possible tone –

 

Cuddle your loved ones

When your alarm goes off, spend a few moments snuggling with your partner, your pets, your

kids – whoever you share a bed with! Wake up slowly, soak in the love of the people you share

your home with, and be thankful.

 

Talk with the Universe

Spend a few moments visualizing how you’d like your day to go. Say some prayers for yourself

and others. Mentally review all of the things you have to be grateful for. In my program, my

clients make goal cards that I encourage them to review at this time, but you can do the same

thing by spending time thinking about what your long term goals are, and what small actions you

can take today to reach them. It’s all about putting good juju out for yourself and the people you

love!

 

Keep your phone out of reach

It only adds stress to your morning to begin checking email, Facebook and text messages as

soon as you wake up. Wait until you’ve moved through your morning routine and are feeling

nourished, reenergized and ready to face the day before looking at a screen.

 

Boil a pot of water

Instead of jumping right into your morning coffee drinking, boil some hot water and add a slice of

fresh lemon. Hot lemon water is a soothing, detoxifying way to get your body moving every

morning. For an added detoxifying boost, add some cayenne pepper to the mix.

 

Make breakfast a priority

After going without food for 8-10 hours, your body needs to be refueled! I tell my clients to focus

on eating a healthy, nourishing breakfast within ninety minutes of waking up. If you wait much

longer, your body will begin craving sugars, caffeine and other not-so-healthy foods, setting you

up for a day of poor choices and irritable behavior.

 

Have fun getting ready

Enjoy getting ready for your day by first taking a relaxing shower. While you’re standing under

the warm water, imagine all of the stress of the day before melting off of your body and washing

down the drain. Once you’re feeling clean and refreshed, spend some time jamming to your

favorite uplifting music. Put on makeup, choose clothes that make you feel great, and do your

hair. My clients hear from me all the time that when you feel fabulous, you make fabulous

choices in your day!

 

Nichole Kellerman wants to live in a world where women actually enjoy the process of losing

weight and connecting with their bodies.

When she’s not fearlessly (but lovingly) pushing her clients into the lifestyle they dream of, you’ll

find her laughing with friends, connecting with nature and loving up on her boyfriend and two

dogs.

Her business, Wildly Alive Weight Loss, is for women who want to stop dieting and re-frame

their minds so they can reshape their bodies. Her teachings are like nothing you’ve ever heard.

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How to use a foam roller

How to use a foam roller

Foam Rollers are a great form of Self-Myofascial Release.

You may see many in the gym, white, blue, grey, bumpy ones, smooth ones and people rolling around like its fun

(I’m telling you, its not! LOL)

Foam rolling helps relieve muscle soreness and tension, loosens knots, allivates IT Band syndrome and helps with full range of motion and increasing mobility.
Its one of those love/hate things. I’ll be honest… its hard to “not be a bitch” when I’m lying on one… I whine, cry and all but curse my mother.

But afterward… wow! I’m a new woman!
Here are a few techniques I use and teach my clients for IT band, inner thighs, upper back, traps, lats and even feet for plantar fascitis.

The foam roller I use in this video is from The Pro Unit
*I am not a paid affiliate for The Pro Unit

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How can I get rid of loose skin on my belly?

this picture is more likely a candidate for a tummy tuck ** always consult a board certified plastic surgeon and get more than one opinion**

I get emails with training and diet questions all the time. I also get this question (or version of it a lot)

<<<Q: I used to be a size 18 and now am a size 2. I eat clean, weight train and do cardio, but I still have this loose skin. How can I tighten  my belly?? (or I have loose skin after pregnancy)>>>

these stretch marks will not go away, but her skin most likely will still tighten more

There are many factors

*age

*amount of weight lost

*how long you were overweight

*how fast you gained the weight

*how fast you lost the weight

 

……….and a lot of genetics.

Some people gain and lose a ton of weight and have hardly any issues while others are covered in stretch marks and are trying to fix that sagging skin.

You can cry about it or just learn what you can do and accept what you can’t.

There are tips for preventing stretch marks; like cocoa butter and moisturizing, but honestly, if you’re bodies’ genetics are likely to get stretchmarks, no amount of cocoa butter is going to stop that. At this point, the damage is done. So….what is my answer for what you can do?

Assuming you already eat clean, lift-weights and “do what you’re supposed to”…. you may not like the answer.

Preparation-H does not work.

Saran Wrap does not work.

Crunches, reverse crunches, planks or any abdominal exercise you can think of will not work.

There are a few lasers (usually very painful, expensive, and not largely effective) that are available that MAY have some effect on small areas or small amounts of skin “wrinkling”

this picture is more likely a candidate for a tummy tuck ** always consult a board certified plastic surgeon and get more than one opinion**

 

The only true thing that can actually get RID of loose skin is a tummy tuck.

They actually CUT. IT. OFF.

Even this only works if you have a significant amount of skin…. annnnnnnnd $8-$10k and about 3 months to recover.


Sooooo–  the BEST thing you can do is: love yourself, don’t stress over it (its probably worse in your head) and think of it as a symbol of your hard work or your souvenir of your beautiful child or your hard work on losing the weight.

Surgery is a personal choice but realize that if you aren’t ok inside, it’s not going to fix everything. That being said, if you worked hard, there’s no reason you should be held back because of some loose skin.

Whatever you choose, be ok with that.

I would never judge and I’d be in line for a tummy-tuck if I worked my ass off to lose a bunch of weight and it was really bothering me.  

We don’t all look/stay young forever.

Just be strong, be healthy, be beautiful.
and sorry I wish I had some better tips… but I am here to tell you the truth, not what you want to hear. Please Leave your comments!

you are MORE than some silly scars :)

 






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Sweaty Betties & Train Dirty Fitness Online Group Coaching

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You talked, we listened!

I have been training for over 9 years and online training and coaching for over 7! I get many of the same questions and problems over and over again:

  • I don’t have enough time!  
  • I don’t know what to do ! 
  • I don’t know what to eat ! 
  • My family is picky!  
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This is a group coaching program that will run in a PRIVATE Facebook group.
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  • Access to dozens of downloadable meal plans ($250 value)
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  • Weekly weigh-ins
  • Daily motivation and posts
  • Questions answered by two fitness professionals ($500 value)
  • Paleo weight-loss plans
  • Vegan & Vegetarian Sample plans
  • Weekly webinars for education, motivation & Inspiration ($400 value)
  • Grocery Lists
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Working in Moore

me during some very labor intensive debris removal. I was drenched in sweat!

Manual, outdoor labor is probably the best workout that anyone could have. I would like to think even that THIS is why I train. I have never had to lift so many things, squat, carry, and breathe hard, as I have this week.
When I say I earned my sleep, I EARNED my sleep. Pure physical exhaustion and it felt soooo good!

I didn’t go out to help with the tornado clean-up to toot my own horn or try and look like a saint. (All y’all know, I cuss and I’m inappropriate and I’m no Stepford Wife)
However, I have been helped many times in my life and I think one of my gifts is that I am very empathetic. When someone hurts, I hurt. I try to put myself in others shoes and I couldn’t imagine being in the shoes of the people who lost homes (and even loved ones) and had no help.
The mess in Moore, Oklahoma was overwhelming, to say the least…. and this is 8 weeks AFTER the fact! I love when people go on mission trips to other countries and to help people in need, but I find its very important to help our own neighbors when we can.

I was able to stop by the school that was leveled and where  7 children were killed. They had 7 crosses for them and their toys below them. I spent a few minutes reading the messages and I cried. I also heard about the animals that were injured and I will post a picture below that is a little graphic, but the horse lived and the pic below is the same horse, healing.

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My volunteer group. A few Sweaty Betties and a few new friends

My volunteer group. A few Sweaty Betties and a few new friends

outside the elementary school that was blown away and 7 children were killed

outside the elementary school that was blown away and 7 children were killed

me during some very labor intensive debris removal. I was drenched in sweat!

me during some very labor intensive debris removal. I was drenched in sweat!

the fence around the school site. So many notes, flags, toys, etc.

the fence around the school site. So many notes, flags, toys, etc.

 

a house who had roof damage from the tornado and then it collapsed from a storm the night I was there.

a house who had roof damage from the tornado and then it collapsed from a storm the night I was there.

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This photo was provided to me by one of the Sweaty Betties. This was her friend’s horse. She mentioned how no one even thinks of the animals, but so many were hurt or killed or are in shelters because they were lost.
I cringe looking at this photo, but the good news is that she is healed and lived. This just really illustrates the power of those winds and the storm.

This horse is doing better now. I can't help but be amazed that she lived!

This horse is doing better now. I can’t help but be amazed that she lived!

 

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Angelina Jolie’s Choice to have a Double Mastectomy

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I was on twitter last night and I saw a tweet from Piers Morgan:

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So I clicked… and read her article, entitled My Medical Choice

Personally, I thought it was a very brave and thought-out decision by Angelina. She watched her mother struggle and suffer for 10 years fighting breast cancer. I have seen too many friends and family suffer and die from cancer in my life, I know the pain all too well.

Turns out, that she has a genetic disposition for this type of cancer and her risk is significantly higher than the average person, so she opted to have a double mastectomy to try and prevent it from happening. Here is what I thought… please let me know what you think.. I LOVE to read your comments!

I don’t give a $h!t about Abercrombie!

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It was brought to my attention that the CEO of Abercrombie, Mike Jeffries, made some comments about not making his clothes in size XL or XXL because he didn’t “he doesn’t want larger people shopping in his store. He wants thin and beautiful people. He doesn’t want his core customers to see people who aren’t as hot as them wearing his clothing. People who wear his clothing should feel like they’re one of the ‘cool kids.'”

and while I am ALL about self-acceptance, self-love and being happy at any size… I also STRONGLY believe in freedom of speech and having a niche market and being TRUE to yourself…
So.. my response to Mike Jeffries comments:

I.D.G.A.F

Here’s why:

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Me Day

Me Day

Me Day

“Me Day”

I’ve had discussions about this “self-made holiday” on Facebook, I’ve mentioned this in the newsletters and I recently spoke about it on a radio show, but I realized I never composed a blog about it!

See, at the end of December 2012, I started to think about “resolutions” and all of those things we tend to do at the end of the year…. memories from the past year and hopes for the New Year… and I’ll be honest, I was not happy with what was going on. I had been dealing with metabolic damage and adrenal fatigue for the better part of two years, and I had started to make some GREAT headway, and then, POW I lost it!

How did I lose it?

STRESS.

I started staying up late again, I started taking on more projects than I could handle, I started putting myself last and others first… you know the deal.

I realized that the THINGS I was doing to feel better, ie. taking care of me, getting to bed early, meditating, relaxing, eating regular meals, taking my supplements, etc.

I had completely stopped….and I was feeling terrible.

In fact, I told my husband, I just want to rent a car and go stay in a hotel ALONE for a few days. (ok maybe a week!)

He was obviously hurt… but that’s how I felt!

I felt as if I was being pulled in a million directions and I needed an escape… NOW!!

So that is where the “Me Day” idea came from.

I decided that for 2013 ONE DAY out of every month, was a day for ME.
RULES INCLUDE: 

  • no phone
  • no computer
  • no alarm clock
  • I can do whatever makes ME feel good– massage, reading, napping, eating
  • no “shoulds” or “have tos”
  • no work

and so, I took out my phone and blocked out the last Sunday of every month for my year long experiment.

Well, January, something came up, the Dani Johnson First Steps to Success seminar was on “MY WEEKEND” so, I just rescheduled for the next weekend! I took my Sunday (it was Super Bowl Sunday) and got myself a massage, read a book and took a nap. I can’t say that I didn’t get on the computer or ditch the phone.. but it was a start.

So my February day came and my husband knew it was my day, but he needed me for a few things, and I have to say  it was kind of ruined. He apologized and it was no biggie… who knew this would be so hard?!! I thought, “maybe this will be better on a week day!”

March came and went, I traveled to 3 states in 3 weeks and there was no time for me, again and here we are, mid April. I have a day scheduled THIS weekend. Hubby’s out of town and I’m disappearing!! For the rest of the year, I moved my “Me Day” to a Friday. Its easier when hubby is at work to BE ALONE.
The moral is: be flexible, be adaptable, but put it in the books.

I’m not perfect. I don’t have children, however, I have a very busy life because I give a lot and a lot of people depend on me. I understand how hard it is to have a day for you. BUT its still SO important. I urge EVERYONE..

I CHALLENGE YOU—-> DO IT NOW.

Schedule your “Me Days” for the REST of 2013 (there’s still 8 months left!!)

Then CLICK TO TWEET IT: I’m taking a day just for me!! #meday #becauseImworthit @SweatyBetties

even if its a “Me Half-Day” – take 4 hours for YOU. I promise you will be less bitter about the things you “have to do”.
Don’t tell me that you can’t, that you don’t have time, or can’t find a sitter…

Don’t be a b!tch. 

Lets just DO THIS…. and then come back and tell me what you plan on doing. Here are some ideas:

  • sit at the park
  • read a book
  • have coffee with a friend
  • sleep in… late
  • watch a movie marathon in your pajamas
  • get a massage
  • get a mani/pedi
  • hang out at Whole Foods
  • Sun bathe
  • sit in a car alone for 4 hours (I’ve totally done this)
  • go on a hike (but please tell someone where you’re going)
  • take a bath
  • take a yoga class
  • eat a healthy meal
  • do an “at-home” spa day- paint your nails, do a face mask, etc.

 

 

 

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